The whole enneagram thing has shed a lot of light on why I do some the things I do, why some of my urges exist, and why I sometimes get stuck in my head. One extremely valuable insight I’ve learned is that I tend to isolate in order to preserve my sense of self and to continue whatever fantasy is playing out in my head. This is as true as it gets on a spiritual fucking level. But nights like tonight I feel like I isolate to defend others against my bad behavior, it feels like the responsible thing to do. There’s no sense in calling up anyone and telling them the crazy things I feel because the things I’m feeling are irrational. I already talk too much about myself, I don’t see why subjecting someone to more of it would be helpful. I’m tired of my shit and the people that know me best cannot be expected to bear witness every time it explodes out of me and not be tired of it, too.
I get pissed on days like today because I try to do everything right, I try to fix my head so I can do what needs to be done, but sometimes it just doesn’t work. It’s nights like these I drink and I don’t give a fuck anymore. It feels life-affirming and familiar. Damn right I’m having a beer, fuck off. Giving up gives me a renewed sense of purpose, tomorrow is a new day and I will be reborn in my feeble state of detox from whatever I cram into my body tonight. Maybe I’ll drink myself stupid, maybe I’ll get high on too much Adderall, maybe I’ll eat an entire pizza and not throw it up because I’m too tired for that shit nowadays. I know I’ll be stronger again tomorrow because I allowed myself to be weak tonight, right?
Tomorrow I’ll begin the process of rebuilding, and I’ll hide from the world while I do it. Why would I allow anyone to see me in the ugly state of wreckage I’ve brought upon myself? I feel it would only lead me to drink more. So I stay quiet, tiptoe through the world and avoid people until I’m back in a state that feels acceptable enough for presentation.
What would it feel like to stay strong? I already know, because I do it every damn day and I’m tired of it. I’m tired of trying. I’ll give in tonight, relaxing with the booze as I gather more information about how to fix myself. The self-improvement has become its own drug, promising me I could be better and maybe one day even enough. But I need the mellow of this drink to sit long enough to listen.